So quickly

Things can change between husband and wife so quickly, it boggles my mind. In the nearly two weeks since my wife and I last had sex, we had clearly headed down in the quality of our relationship. Hell, in everything! My wife was becoming moodier and had gained several extra pounds (hard to do in such a short time). Her headaches had returned (this one lasted almost 5 days). I was feeling content but not happy. Disconnected from her but not disliking her. I felt tension between us, and we were both "walking on eggshells" in our conversations. Our conversations tended to be short and civil. Nearly no affection was being expressed between us.

Then last night. Things got very rocky at my daughter's afternoon piano recital when I didn't understand how to use certain tickets we had purchased and/or won as a door prize. The tension was increased because my parents had been visiting. By dinner time, we were on the verge of not speaking.

At dinner I had a nice tall margarita :-) I almost went for 2, but I remember that whenever I do that I always wish I had stopped at one ;-) So I stopped, we all enjoyed dinner, came home to watch an episode of Voyage to the Bottom of the Sea on DVD, and then got everyone off to bed early (I used Daylight Savings Time as my excuse to get everyone in bed!).

Then my wife and I cuddled and had sex. We cuddled and made love for an hour. Neither of us wanted it to end. Eventually it did and, to my relief, my wife said how much she had wanted that for so long. And she is the one with the lower libido! And that she had been feeling the same need for emotional and physical intimacy as I had. And how great she thought our sex had been lately. And I found myself agreeing not so that I wouldn't hurt her feelings, but because it has been good, Very good ;-) And that's reason for optimism.